| | When we were in high school, all we talked about was how cute that boy next door was or bitch about how slutty she dressed. Then again, it seems some of us still talk about those even after high school. *cue High School Never Ends song*
Anyway, the point isn't about life after high school. It's about how we go through different phases in our lives and some of us, luckily or not, have to go through this phase called marriage. Yes, its that dreaded word for some of us. But apparently for some, its something they would like to go through, and others, a form of responsibility.
At this age, it's the norm to have people around us talking about wedding and I'm currently facing 2 of them who are going to send themselves straight to the hell-o-marriage. One have to get married cos they've been together for almost ten years and she will not sleep with him unless they get married. So for now they have to live under the same roof but different rooms.
As for the other, it's very likely she's just in for the money. She's one who loves Prada and other luxurious brands. And since his family owns a big company, living in a huge mansion (technically, they own 2, but occupying 1, the other's under renovation), and gives her a supplementary credit card to swipe as she likes. So she must be thinking "why not?!". Okay, giving her the benefit of a doubt, she probably loves him dearly (also probably his inheritance more), she has to move in with the MIL (mom-in-law) which she is very against about. So she'll have to suck in and compromise with the very conventional MIL.
If that's not enough to flaunt about, we chinese have to hold wedding banquets. And it just seems that couples (mainly hugely influenced by the female species) want to have as extravagant, as dramatic as they can afford. From holding a banquet with 100 tables (average seating is 10 seatings per table) to getting a Maserati as their wedding car and to traveling to foreign land to have their wedding portraits taken.
I used to get all happy and excited when someone get married. Cos I thought marriage means having found someone you can actually live and grow old with. While wedding is a celebration of that love found and beginning of a new life. The couple should be having fun celebrating, instead of stressing out about the preparations, guest list, dinner venues and ah yes, the root of all evil, money. But these people who flaunt how pretty their dresses are, how much they can afford to spend on the banquet, obtain the traditional consent to live together, understand the true meaning of marriage and wedding? In our local context here, couples are required to register their marriage to be able to own an apartment. And have I added that some get married just because they've been together for years and feel that getting married is only the responsible thing to do. Somehow to them, it's just something that should be done.
What are you getting married for? What does a wedding means to you? A celebration, or an opportunity to display your elaborate dress, your capacity to throw a banquet at the Ritz for 100 guests.
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| | Posted 7/30/2009 12:08 AM - 23 Views - 6 eProps - 3 comments
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